RDP Tuesday: Connect
late Middle English (in the sense ‘be united physically’; rare before the 18th century): from Latin connectere, from con- ‘together’ + nectere ‘bind.’
As so often happens, once I look at the history behind a word, my original idea for the post is quickly replaced.
I didn’t know that the word connect had a sense of “being united physically.”
In our wedding ceremony, my dad was the officiating pastor as well as the one who, of course, walked me down the aisle to Terry. He read from the passage including Genesis 2:24, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
I understand it a lot better now, after nearly 50 years. In a good marriage, the couple becomes so closely united that they operate as if they were one body, one mind, one heart, one soul. One flesh. That is not to say there is never a disagreement. Nobody’s perfect. But the overall relationship is one of unity.
I had a friend some years ago who was in his 80’s when I met him. His wife had died of leukemia, and he was still grieving. He said to me one time, “Linda, I never understood the one flesh principle the way I did the day my wife died. I felt like half my body had been cut off.”
I heard him, of course, but I was still in my late 30’s then, and I didn’t really hear his heart the way I do now, in my memory. It is a wonderful thing to have that sort of marriage.
I have it.
Is it worth the the pain when one partner leaves before the other?
Oh yes. Even though it hasn’t happened to us yet, I will grieve, and I will miss him terribly. But I will not for one moment regret all the years we had together just because never having that relationship would have spared me the pain of loss.
All relationships come packaged with possible loss. That’s life. If we cut ourselves off from relationships in order to avoid pain, we may as well go live in a cave in the desert and contemplate our toenails until we die.
No, thank you. My life is rich with family, friends, people I work with and people I haven’t even met yet.
Connection with a faithful spouse is the picture of that wonderful one-flesh principle. I wouldn’t trade it for anything.