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Ernestine trembled. Her husband and son held her hands, but still she trembled.
“This isn’t our home, Oscar. Where are we going? Richard, why are we going there?”
“Momma, it’s okay,” said Richard. Oscar, too, trembled as he walked Ernie forward. They were out of options, but his heart was breaking.
“Oscar, let’s go home. Please. Please take me home.”
“We’re going to your new home, Ernie, dear. You’ll like it. People will take care of you. It’s beautiful!”
Tears tracked her wrinkled cheeks. “You said forever, Oscar. You promised!”
Sobbing, she repeated, “You promised!”
This was heart breaking. Is she suffering from Alzheimer’s or something? Tough choice for her boys, really.
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Yes, Varad. Alzheimer’s is a terrible disease that robs the victim of who they are, and sometimes they just can’t be cared for well enough at home. Thanks for your comment.
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A familiar tragedy to many. This was heart breaking.
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Indeed, it is heartbreaking for everyone concerned.
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I know the feeling… but it’s better to do before she has forgotten that were her home is.
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Yes, but no matter when you have to do it, it’s awful. Alzheimer’s is awful.
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Such places are always beautiful – to those who don’t have to move into them. A very well-told story that holds a lot of detail in one hundred words.
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Thank you, Jilly. You’re right, and most people do their best to find a place that is not just an institution. Very hard, especially when there’s very little money.
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Wonderful story, but so heartbreaking. I know that people have to make this choice every day, and my heart hurts for them.
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Yes, mine too.
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Tragic
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Yes.
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Not a happy journey at all.
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Not at all.
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Dear Linda,
I can hear and see this. A true heart-breaker. Excellent story.
Shalom,
Rochelle
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Thanks, Rochelle.
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You describe the pain felt by all beautifully. Sadly, this is also a choice that has a long and dark history for children and adults with disabilities, and it is still sometimes faced by parents or siblings of people with severe developmental or physical disabilities because of the difficulty of controlling extreme behavior or health needs. Thankfully community settings and family settings with supports are more favored over institutions these days. Still the scarcity of funding is an ever present problem.
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All very true. Thanks for reading and commenting.
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Too real, Linda. As I deal with my mother-in-law, I feel this even more…
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I’m sorry you have this tragedy to deal with. I’m praying for you.
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Thank you, Linda. The hardest part is done. She has been placed, is safe and no longer have to worry about her getting lost or doing stuff she shouldn’t.
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That really is the hardest part. Hard on the family, hard on the elder who can no longer live alone. At least you can sleep at night 🙂
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This made me sad
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It’s a sad situation. thanks for reading and commenting.
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So real, Linda. I think we went the same way on this one. Beautifully written.
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I’ve barely started reading others’ stories. Very busy work week, not much down time. Looking forward to yours, as always 🙂
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So sad. Sometimes the best place is a care home, but so heartbreaking.
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Yes. Thanks for your comment.
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Heartbreaking stuff. You did this well.
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Thanks, Sandra.
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This breaks my heart…reminds me of my mom. Great job!
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Thank you–although I’m sorry to have stirred up a sad memory. This is all too common today.
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Beautifully written, Linda and you’ve captured the heartbreak with great sensitivity. It’s particularly hard where you have a couple being split apart as in your story where one is well and the other might not even know who they are anymore. I know when my grandparents entered care, we all felt like we were taing a lamb to the slaughter house, but there was no choice. Family had tried stepping in but it wasn’t enough.
I particularly love your last line. It’s like she is fading in and out and might not remember everything but she remembers that. So poignant!
Best wishes,
Rowena
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Sometimes I wonder if we’ve gotten too good at keeping the body alive longer than the brain is able to support cognition. It’s a modern dilemma.
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it must be tough for everybody. hopefully, they’d find a cure soon.
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So well told, It is heart breaking to read, and even worst in real life.
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it’s like a journey to eternity,Which is like counting the days as they pass.
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You’ve written that extremely well, Linda.
The repetition of the phrase “You promised” is savagely powerful. It slammed me up against the dilemma faced by Oscar and Richard – what, really, are Ernestine’s best interests? Are they to protect her as far as possible by placing her into care, or to care for her themselves as far as possible, acknowledging that sooner or later her condition will have deteriorated to the point that most people would find unacceptable? Both courses are fraught with pain.
I honour everyone who attempts to deal with such a situation lovingly; it must be almost impossibly difficult.
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I did a year of practicum in a nursing home while I was working on my master’s degree. I saw this situation up close and personal way too often. Everything about it is painful.
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Heartbreaking story that brings out the pain felt by carers. It is a hard decision and one that is probably reached with great difficulty by most families.
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Yes. It is extremely difficult . Thanks for your comment.
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My dad had dementia and was always wanting to go home (even when he was in his living room). Finally, one night Jesus came and took him to his eternal home. He loves it there.
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That’s a sad story with a wonderful ending 🙂
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So sad and heartfelt. It is easy to make promises, far more difficult to live by them when people become so ill and in need of constant care. Oscar must feel wretched and helpless.
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Yes. If only we could predict the future 🙂
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Indeed.
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You’ve told this heartbreaking tale so realistically and sensitively.
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Thanks so much.
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You’re welcome,.
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Well, you just broke my heart. This reminds me of moving my father to a home after my mom died. So many questions. He didn’t have dementia, he just waited too long to accept what my sisters and I offered. Great story.
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I think it’s one of the hardest things ever for the elder and the family.
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It’s a tough decision. I’m not sure what I would do in such a situation, and I’m sure her words are just breaking her husband’s heart. Bringing up guilt. And I feel her pain too.
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Yes, it’s a very tough decision. There really doesn’t seem to be any right answer.
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I can see this story. You wrote it well, believable, a lot of heart.
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Thank you, Ted. That’s a lovely comment.
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So heart-breaking! My Mum is 83 and lives with me and keeps saying she won’t go into a nursing home. I hope she doesn’t, but like your said in the story, sometimes you run out of options.
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I hope she doesn’t have to. But when you can no longer provide the care she needs, then a decision will have to be made.
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Poor Oscar.
A very touching story.
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Heartbreaking and poignant.
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