How Could I Forget!

I just remembered what I had planned to mention this morning.  I think my brain is still on vacation. . . .


Today is our 49th wedding anniversary!  That’s worth putting out there into cyberspace, right?  Forty-nine years that went so fast, in retrospect, that I can hardly believe it’s true.

Forty-nine years.  Four children. Nine grandchildren.  Showers of blessing.  Friends, church, work, other family members have all enriched our lives beyond measure.

A young man who was my seat mate on the journey to South Dakota asked me what the secret was for such a long marriage. That’s easy.

Commitment.  A promise is a promise, and you don’t break promises–especially to the person you marry, because that is a sacred union created and blessed by God.

So whenever there was a crisis–and there were many, large and small–divorce was never an option. We had said, “I DO!”  and we meant it.  We found ways to compromise; we learned to be better listeners.  Neither of us has to be right all the time, so neither of us has to be wrong all the time.  There is a balance that grows as each  situation is worked through.  We rarely disagree these days.  Usually, it’s just not worth the time and effort.

The biggest irritants we have now involve old-age things, like hearing loss–which, believe me, can create some extremely irritating moments–and short-term memory issues.

“Linda, do you know where my keys are?”

“Where did you have them last?”

“In the CAR!”                                                                       Image result for hearing loss in old age

“Did you look there?”

“Not yet.  I was hoping maybe you picked them up.”

“Nope, don’t think so.  I’ll check, though.”

“Ter?  Did you look in the pockets of the pants you had on yesterday?”

“Why would they be there?”

A few beats of silence.

“Okay, I found them. Don’t remember putting them in my pocket, though.  You must have done that.”

“Of course I did.  That’s what I do, go around putting your keys in your pants pockets.”

“What’s that?”

“Nothing.  Never mind.  Glad you found them.”




16 thoughts on “How Could I Forget!

  1. A friend offered to give me a ride six blocks further than my house to check on something for my daughter, (who is on vacation). A block from my house I reminded him, before he pulled in my driveway instead of taking me to Deb’s. Kindly, he said, “Thanks for not letting me be embarrassed.” I just smiled and said, “You’re welcome. I would have forgotten were I driving.” But then, we are not married and just friends. It does make a difference. Ha!

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  2. Sarah Ann

    Happy (belated) anniversary. It was mine on 7th too – 18 years and counting. And I know of two other couples who share our day both at 32 years each. 🙂

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  3. I had meningitis as a child and have been wearing hearing aids ever since. I’m now a mom of a tween and a teen, and still struggle with progressive hearing loss. Now, my mom started wearing hearing aids, and I’m in a position to help her transition. 🙂 I’m sure my dad is next…

    Glad to have stumbled on your blog!

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