The Golden Rule


Write a new post in response to today’s one-word prompt. 


Not too long ago, the prompt for the day was compromise.  I wrote an post about the importance of compromise in government, and how compromise helped America to develop the bicameral legislature and the Electoral College.   I think I said something along the lines of “Compromise isn’t necessarily a negative thing.”  And I stand by that.


Big however  coming up here, though.  There are some things for which we should take an uncompromising stand. Thinking through some of my recent sessions in my counseling office, I’ll give you a short list.


  1. Tell the truth. One lie leads to many other lies.  “Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive.”
  2. Have some standards–boundaries, if you like that word better–on which you will not compromise.  Say no to illegal drugs.  Say no to alcohol if you are a minor.  And even if you are of age, if there is alcoholism in your family tree, just don’t take that first drink.  You’ll save yourself and your loved ones years of misery.   Say no to sex when you know in your gut that it’s a mistake.  My own standard here is that sex is for marriage. I know that’s not true for many people today, but I’m here to tell you that after nearly 50 years of marriage, I do not regret for one moment that my husband and I were both virgins when we married.
  3. Don’t cheat.  That means in school, at work, in relationships,  or any other place where cheating may be a temptation.  If you never cheat, you never have to lie to cover it up.
  4. Don’t steal.  If it’s not yours, you have no  right to it.  Earn  it, don’t steal it.
  5. Respect the law.  Respect law enforcement.  There may come a time when you will be desperate for help from law enforcement.

I could go on at length, but I won’t.  Bottom line:  If you don’t want it done to you, don’t do it to anyone else.


8 thoughts on “The Golden Rule

  1. Great minds think alike. 🙂 My post this morning is somewhat along the same lines, as I review a short novel where a woman wrestles with a big ethics issue.
    I agree with everything you’ve written. Life gets so complicated when a person has to juggle their stories and relationships. I saw a lot of tension and grief when I worked together with teens at a fast-food place.
    One girl would agree to, or promise you, anything — but her promises meant nothing. The boss couldn’t rely on her to show up for work; she may have agreed, on the spur of the moment, to do something for someone else. I wondered how she’d ever deal with the commitment of marriage?

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  2. anie

    The golden rule is a wonderful rule for life and staying with the true is important to be able to respect yourself. Now the truth is a relative thing and very hard to define. It is always good not only to perceive one’s own truth, but also that of others. Liars need a good memory. and if they have this, unfortunately, they will not forget what they did to others with their lies.

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    1. Memory lets us all down if we persist in lying. There’s just no way you can remember what you said to whom, and sooner or later you’re going to get caught in your own web.

      As for truth being relative, we could talk a long time about that. If truth is relative, to what is it relative? Does truth change, and if so, then it isn’t always truth, right? In my world, there are truths that are unchanging, timeless, and not dependent on circumstances. God is truth. His Word is truth. Unchanging, uncompromising.

      And yes, I understand we probably don’t see God the same way. See what I mean? This could be a very long conversation 🙂

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      1. anie

        Yes you are right. Above all, people tend to make excuses … small lies are justified because it is the easier way and does not harm anyone (supposedly). Often, the people are fooling themselves and eventually believe their own lies when they have repeated them often enough.
        And you are right, already the view of God is different.
        Does the truth change … the absolute truth probably does not, otherwise it would not have been the truth, as you say. But we will not be able to see the absolut truth, because we always have a subjective view of things … you would need absolute objectivity!
        Our truth is changing, even with time, with memories. Because we learn and see situations different on the past and the present. The art is to shape the present in such a way that we can look everyone in the eye without a bad conscience, because we lives consciously and fight for our view of the things, for our feelings and for our dreams without forgetting the fellow human beings.
        I think there is no clear limit to what is true, but we know what you wanted to say with your execution. Live ethically and morally as a role model. It will not work in all situations of life because we are human and weak, but we will also master hard times when we have to enter unsightly ways, when we are conscious of our doing and learn from it.

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