Alone is not Always Lonely


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Being alone is not necessarily the same as being lonely. Solitude, when it is voluntary, is a good and healthy thing that allows us to decompress, relax, think, sleep, read, dream, without interruption. I crave solitude, because I spend my work week with people who need my counsel.  My husband is retired, so is home almost 24/7.  I love him with all my heart, but sometimes I just need to be alone.

But when solitude is used as discipline,  or coercion, or torture–then it is a thing to be dreaded.  I may have sent a child to his room for a short period of time, but never endlessly. Funny thing about my kids–they all seemed to enjoy their solitude. Maybe that’s because there were four of them, and solitude could be hard to find.

Jesus looked for solitude. He had His disciples row their boat to the opposite side of the lake so He could be alone for a while, to rest and restore His strength. He spent time praying alone with the Father. We can take a lesson from that.  Often, spiritual pursuits require solitude.

Some people don’t want to ever be alone. They are almost frantic with the need to have others around them, and will go to great lengths to find companionship.  I believe every child needs to learn to appreciate solitude. He needs to be comfortable with his own brain, his own thoughts, his own activities. It builds strength to be able to be alone and to like it.

Other people avoid companionship, much preferring their own company and going to great lengths to be alone.

Isn’t it interesting how different we all are?  The important thing is to look for balance. Be alone, and be content. Be with people, and be content.

Kind of rambling today. So many pictures popped into my mind when I saw the prompt, and I could write for a long time about all of them.  But I have to go to work, so I’m done.


6 thoughts on “Alone is not Always Lonely

  1. I agree with your points. I crave solitude and quiet. I also know of many people who are almost afraid to be alone so they fill every hour of the day. I have had times when I’ve been in a group of people and still felt alone. As you said we are all different.

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  4. Meghan Conley

    I completely agree with all of this!! I actually just recently did a TED talk all about solitude and taking the time to be alone to discover what you truly want and to learn how to get over the discomfort of being alone. Check it out here:

    Hopefully my work can connect with you like yours has connected with me 🙂

    Thank you for sharing!

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