(If one of your late ancestors were to come back from the dead and join you for dinner, what things about your family would this person find the most shocking?)
It didn’t take me long at all to think about how either one of my parents would react to the way Terry and I operate these days.
First, understand that my dad would be 91, my mom 89, if they were both still lving. They were a part of the Great Generation that trudged their way through the Great Depression and then slugged their way through World War II. As Edith and Archie would sing, “Those Were the Days”—-girls were girls and men were men. What that meant then was that each gender knew his/her job, and there were no crossing of the lines.
And no, my parents were not Archie and Edith 🙂
The differences were not things that we ever fought about or even discussed. They just happened naturally. Terry was never afraid to change a diaper, even the worst ones. He’s always been willing to help out around the house. When our kids were little, I was a stay-at-home mom and pretty much took care of all the traditional “women’s work” all the time. Things began to change when I went to work teaching full time. There were gradual changes, and they worked well for our family.
Now that he’s retired, he has informed me that he will do the dishes. I didn’t understand, at first, that he meant ALL the dishes ALL the time! He has also taken over most of the grocery shopping, and he cooks on Wednsday and Thursday every week. I don’t get home until close to 5:30, so not having to head right to the kitchen is absolutely wonderful.
What would really shock my folks is that HE serves ME! On the nights he cooks, he wants me to let him dish it up, bring it to the table, clean it up. I admit, it was hard for me at first. Such a turn-around from our normal pattern.
Yes, my ancestors would be shocked. So would his, as a matter of fact 🙂